WHAT TO SAY AFTER A LOSS

When someone has experienced a miscarriage, it's important to approach the situation with sensitivity and empathy.

I am often asked, “What do I say when someone experiences a loss? I don’t know how to help them. I am afraid to say the wrong thing and saying nothing does not feel good either. Below you will find some helpful things to consider when wanting to support someone you love

1. Express Your Sympathy:

   • "I am so sorry for your loss."

   • "My heart goes out to you during this difficult time."

   • "I can't imagine the pain you're going through, but I'm here for you."

2. Acknowledge Their Feelings:

   • "It's okay to feel a range of emotions right now."

   • "Your feelings are valid, and I'm here to support you in any way you need."

3. Offer Practical Support:

   • "If there's anything I can do to help or support you, please let me know."

   • "I'm here to listen, whether you want to talk about it or just need someone to be with you."

4. Avoid Platitudes or Clichés:

   • Be cautious about saying things like "Everything happens for a reason" or "It wasn't meant to be." These statements can unintentionally minimize the person's pain.

5. Respect Their Privacy:

   • "I'm here for you, but I also understand if you need some time alone."

   • "Let me know what level of support you're comfortable with, and I'll respect your wishes."

6. Use Non-Judgmental Language:

   • Avoid asking probing questions or making assumptions about their feelings.

   • "Take all the time you need" is often more helpful than suggesting a specific timeline for recovery.

7. Send a Thoughtful Note:

   • A handwritten card or a thoughtful message can provide ongoing support and let them know you're thinking of them.

Remember, the key is to be present, supportive, and understanding. Everyone grieves differently, so your friend or loved one may need different forms of support at different times. It's important to be patient and let them guide the conversation.